To avoid a child-centered life
in the interaction between parents and children is important to be responsive and to satisfy their needs. Yet paradoxically it means not putting your child in the center, said Jean Liedloff.
Children learn by looking
Children will learn how to behave and make it through to see and hear other individuals. When a parent turns the child and allows the child to the center, deprived child this experience. Jean Liedloff writes:
A young child needs to be present in another man's active life, in constant physical contact and stimulation of many of the experiences that it's going to take part in later life. His or her role in caring person's arms are passive, with all senses alert. He may now and then enjoy the instant attention, kisses, be Overalls, thrown into the air, etc. But his main task is to witness the acts of the adult or child who takes care of him, to care the person's interaction with others and to what is happening in the environment around them. This information prepares the child to take its place among other people through the child learns to understand what they do.
When this strong running counteracted through that almost looks inquiringly at a baby who looks quizzically at one, creating a sense of deep disappointment and impotence. It inhibits the child's mental development. The child's expectation of a strong, employed a model in constant proximity, undermined by an emotionally needy person who tries to be accepted by it or want to win its confidence or favor.
Infants placed in the center is trying to signal that it is wrong by f. eg screaming or waving his arms angrily. Older children may try to "pull" their parents in different ways. The child wants foreldreren to take control of their lives.
In order to avoid the child and concentrate on their own lives, parents need to trust that the child takes care of itself. When the child leaves his mother's knee and begins to crawl and walk around in world away from her body, do so without intervention. The mother's role is then to be found there if the baby comes, or shouting at her. It is not her case to control its activities or to protect it from the dangers that it might even be able to protect themselves against if it had the chance. Every mother must rely on their children's ability to take care of themselves as much as she can. Few would be able to let your child play freely with knives and fire, and stay near the water when it will be so yequanalndianerne do without thinking about it, acknowledge that they are with young children huge begavning to take care of themselves. But in the less civilized mother assumes responsibility for their children's safety, the rather deeper and it becomes selvstendigt. It knows when it needs help or comfort the child should be taking the initiative.
Trusting your child and not to over protect or play with it, can be very difficult for a mother from the West that has been oppforstret to believe that the best you can do for children is to be self-sacrificing. But it's a parent trap that feels difficult in many ways. To solve the insulation and weight parenthood as may involve proposing often that you should leave your child to others to get some "voksentid" or time for themselves. But Liedloff points out that there is another solution - to live their lives with the child present but without having to submit to the child.
Difficulty in our modern life
in today's society it can be hard to let your child participate in one's life. But during the leave period available to you as parents to show how life is lived, one removes, acting and cooking, visiting friends, working on various projects, even simply just living. With the infant in her arms you show us what it means to be human today. And as the child gets it close it does it can use its energy to observe everything that happens. What you do not need to do is to buy baby toys and spend hours playing, lirking or try to find out what the child wants. Many are surprised at how quiet and attentive babies are treated in a non-barnes commented on the way. But really it's no wonder, for whom we will be in the center all the time? Who thrives when the other is constantly asking what you want or submit to what he or she believes that it will have? Liedloff pull it all together so well when she writes that one need only glance at the millions of parents in places like countries in the Third World to see how it can be. There has never been "advice" to cease to trust and understand their children and where children are living in a well-functioning interaction with working parents. Cecilie Dahl From The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff.
