The newborn
After many months of waiting feels birth as a highlight, but it is not, in fact. You have not waited for the food, but to have a baby. Now she is here, the pain is over, but there is no chance for a rest.
Becoming parents also means that you have to be parents. Wait not too much of yourself these first confused days. You need all three undergo a comprehensive adaptation process. About a month you will have changed you, and you will feel and act in a completely different way. Your baby will feel at home with her new life, and you want to find peace in parenting.
Most parents look back on this time as emotionally intense and confusing. You experience it so strongly: pleasure and pain, responsibility and pride, selfishness and selflessness. You are still dead tired. Your hormonal balance is disturbed, the milk is either abundant or completely missed. The body tries to get in balance again. Your husband does not have any physical effects to get over, but he must balance on a tightrope emotionally. He must leave the main role for people who have gone through hardships, but he must feel that you have the baby together, that he is deeply engaged.
If he gives the baby too much attention, he risks making you feel that you are not the main character for him, and if he shows her enough attention, he risks being accused of not caring about her. There are many men who sour notes that in the first period after birth is all wrong, what they are doing.
But the baby must master, is unparalleled in human experience. As long as she was inside you, taking your body out of her. It provided food and oxygen, removing waste products, allowing her to be warm and protected and shielded her from the outside world. Now that she's separated from you. Must her body themselves. She has to suck and swallow water and food, digest it and get rid of waste products.
The food provides her energy so kroppsfunsksjonene can be started, so she can stay warm, and continue to grow. She has to breathe to get oxygen and keep air passages clear by coughing and sneezing. As she takes on all these new tasks, she must also deal with a true bombardment of outside influences.
Suddenly, her skin come into contact with air, with heat and cold, with clothing and hindringer.Det is light and dark, and there are things to look at people and things that move to and fro. There is hunger, sucking, satiety, and belching. The smell and taste, and everything is new everything is different. All is confusion. Your newborn baby's behavior is a series of reactions to what she perceives as random effects.
She has instincts and reflexes and senses that works, but she has no knowledge or experience. She does not know what she is, that the object she is looking to move in front of her face, her own, or that it continues to be a part of her when it has disappeared from view and located next to her on the carpet. She does not know that you are human. She is programmed to be interested to see the faces and hear voices. She is programmed to suck when she gets a nipple in the mouth. She is programmed to survive, but she knows nothing.
As long as she is born t and not completely adapted to life outside the mother's body will behavior be random and unpredictable. She would cry for food every half hour in one six-hour period, and sleep happy in the next. If she is hungry in the morning, one can not hence predict her reaction later in the day, for hunger is not yet regulated in a pattern. She responds only to the moment emotions. Sleep is also without regular rhythms; If she has slept with a timinutters nap now and then through the night and takes a femtimers nap during the day, says nothing about the next night's sleep. She may cry for no apparent reason and stop as soon as she began.
Crying does not follow any clear pattern of cause and effect, for she is not yet aware of the difference between pleasure and pain. When you start to take advantage of this small, new people, you lack the most important prerequisites.
If you never know so much about babies in general, you know neither you or anyone else anything about this particular child. You do not know how she looks and behaves when she is fine, so it is difficult to know when she is unhappy. You do not know how much it is "normal" for her to cry, because you have not yet had her long NOK to know what's normal for just her. You do not know how much she is eating or sleeping normally, and can not judge whether she is on a particular day has been NOK or too much food and sleep. And yet it is you who is responsible for her welfare. You must learn to care for her, and she must learn to live. You must constantly adapt your new situations, constantly learning new things. Maybe it takes only a week before you both feel safe in their roles. But it can also take a month.
In this adaptation period, you should not bother you too much to expect love. It will come, but it will take time. How do you perceive the word than love, there must be something with the interaction between people who know each other, like what they see and want more intimacy. Love is sharing, giving and receiving affection and comfort. A newborn child is neither lovable or loving. She has not yet come into a pattern that allows her to predict, it has not yet formed specific traits that will make it clear to everyone that she has a unique personality. You may love her because she is your child, the fulfillment of a plan or a dream, but you can not yet love her like a man loves another, until she has matured and you must adapt your other.
She will learn to love you in a faithful and loving way that is unparalleled elsewhere in human affairs. But it will take time. If you can let your hair down and experience the child physically, you will hasten the time when she can take part in the important love toy. If she gets the chance she will not remain passive and leave the initiative to you. If you like to have her with you, she will also come to you. She has a built-in interest for you because your loving care is absolutely necessary for her to survive. She will be NOK ensure that love comes. When she has been outside the body for ten or fifteen days or twenty days, she will understand that the world is a good place to be in. And it's the best start you can give her in life.
