In most cases, your child will begin to break down and look at you as something slightly embarrassing one is dependent aged 10 to 13 years. Then they are about to create their own identity and personal acquaintances. Maybe they ask you to drop them off around the corner or try to change the dress style / your style so that it matches the other's parents.
There is still no reason to despair and take personal close by especially large grad.Dette is usually that the child wants to be independent even though they will still be dependent on you for a number of things such as transportation, money, downtime, etc. . And since the child feels more and more they would also wish that they were not as dependent as the fact of his parents.
As your child gets older child will try to free themselves and make up their own opinions and thoughts. He / she will choose her clothes and even have their own interests and hobbies. The room will be the child's own free zone where he / she will create its own universe with posters, stickers, loud music or other things that clearly shows what they are concerned.
Some begin to keep a diary of everything that goes on the ups and downs in life and their innermost thoughts and secrets. There are many difficult, painful and frightening situations you should through the maturation process from childhood to adulthood.
Here are some rules you may want to follow:
* Support the child in its choice as much as you can. Almost all parents have even had many weird hairstyles and bizarre fashion choices. We see too often back in those times as an important part of our identity when we get older.
* Take the youth's problems seriously . How trivial it may seem to you can for your child can literally be a matter of life and death. Be good to listen and give as detailed answers as you can. You must never tell others about what you have learned without their approval. The confidence you break when you can take a long time to build up again if you all can do it.
* Respect the child's privacy. knock and wait for a response before you enter the room.
* You should have a tremendously good reason for hacking in the child's things like e-mail, diaries and similar and this should never happen unless you have a very good reason to suspect abuse, drug abuse or other very serious matters closest case about life and death.
* Try to avoid cleaning the teen's personal cave, unless there is a health hazard to live there. It can be a lot of secrets hidden in drawers, closets or under the bed.
* Be firm on what you perceive as the family rules. It can be much different depending on what you have learned or how you have it at home as a child. It may include such things as respect for each other or other people, eat together, husplikter, lesson times, inne-/utetid and so on.
Although at times it can be turbulent to have a youth on the brink of adulthood in the house, it can of course also have their good sides. Experiments like to think of activities that everyone can participate in and enjoy. From personal experience, the writer even found out that fishing is something everyone in our family has immense pleasure in whatever age the family member. What your family enjoys, of course, not necessarily the same as ours, but whatever it may be, it leads us together and when to relax together, learn also to know each other better.
